Unconditional

We all get caught up in the illusion of love. We are bombarded daily with how we should look, the type of car we should drive, the clothes we should wear and the type of house we should have. The list can go on forever of all the should's that we need in order to be accepted. The 'should's' ring shallow. Because no matter what you do or what you have there will always be someone who has done more and has more than you.

The question of the day is can you be okay just the way that you are warts and all?No one is perfect. I had all of the 'stuff' and was not happy in my addiction. Today I have no-thing and I am happy. My wife for a long while was very sick and almost died. The lesson was about true unconditional love. It was not about how 'good' she looked or how 'sexy' she is or even how 'smart' she is. At that moment we were stripped down to the core of our spirits, our moment of truth; what mattered was our love. Our love has no conditions on it.

The difficult part as addicts in recovery is learning to love ourselves unconditionally. The process is one of accepting are character defects and through the steps learning to change. Each year of my recovery has been one where the onion layers are peeled away. The Universe continues to teach me that we can all be more real, honest and unconditionally loving.